On Healing.

I spent my day bored and lonely and annoyed that I didn't have any Starbucks, so those are all pretty certain signs that I must be feeling somewhat better in the big, physical picture.

Image from http://www.starbucksdrinks.com. 

The iron infusion helped for a few days, but the anemia is winning and my energy is already leaking away. I need to get with my regular MD and continue working on a long-term solution to this.

(Warning: a little bit of gross medical stuff ahead)

Still eagerly awaiting the removal of these nasty drains. Yesterday morning, I noticed some wetness/leakage at the painful point where one of the drainage tubes are stitched in place to insert my body. Kimber examined it and noticed a clot in the tube so she Googled 'mastectomy drain clots and leakage.' She was able to find out how to break it up and everything started flowing again. God bless the Internet. The whole area is tender and sore, but that is probably because of having to fuss around with it to work the clot out. Having a fluid build-up inside the area around the expander would be bad news, as the surgeon would have to pull it out until that cleared up, which would mean more surgery and put a major delay in overall healing and the reconstruction process. I will have these drains for at least another week. 

Sometimes I just stare in the mirror at what's left of me. The incisions are an ugly, wrinkly mess. The tissue expanders that were inserted at the time of surgery give the appearance that I still have some boob, but they are oddly shaped and are pretty much up inside my armpits. It's just all so wrinkled and dimpled and misshapen and unflattering. I know this is just phase one of a larger process and that in the end, things will have a much more natural appearance, but for now, it all just feels so ugly. 

I felt and expressed my first bits of remorse this morning. Not about having the surgery, but about the timing of it. Pregnant Kimberly is working so hard and she is so tired and having a ton of pain in her back. I hate feeling so dependent on her. She's having to deal with these wild toddlers and trying to keep up on laundry and now going to work again. I feel like such a burden. I know both she and my mom are totally exhausted from taking care of the kids and of me, and I am feeling so worthless to them. I am just not used to being in this position. 

Kimber told me that she knows if I had not done it now, we would have continued to find reason after reason to wait, likely until the kids are all in school, and that would have been be 5-6 years from now. With each passing year, it would have been so much more likely that cancer would be the one to win. I know she is right. If we hadn't have made this a priority, it would have been easy to keep putting it off. 

The lethargy from the anemia, these feelings of worthlessness at home, missing being able to hold my babies and their big, loving hugs, all compounded by my heart aching for the struggles of people I care about... It all has me feeling quite blue. 

So blessed. So loved. I know. I know. 

I just can't shake the sadness.